Munchie is a three-week-old, wiggly, handleable and fun Golden hamster baby looking for a loving guardian.

Munchie is learning to appreciate attention from his people, lots of different foods and treats, spinning on his wheel and exploring his surroundings.

Golden hamsters live alone in their habitats so it’s important to give daily attention and love.

In captivity, these golden hamsters can run two to five miles in a 24-hour period and can store up to one ton of food in their cheeks in a lifetime. It’s fun to watch them hoard food.

Since this is a baby, he will need patient daily handling and socialization so he is not afraid of humans.

His adoption fee of $15 benefits the Friends of Petraits Rescue. If you need an entire hamster habitat, aquarium, bedding, food, treats, toys, exercise wheel, hidey hut and water bottle – everything you need including the hamster – the whole package is available for $75.

To meet and possibly adopt Munchie please contact [email protected].

Munchie is being fostered in Chicago’s Andersonville neighborhood.

It’s actually a low-key week, with Maplewood’s Pulaski Day celebration and beer release starting the week off around the Chicago area. We’ll also have some Women’s History Month events. Of course there’s a lot of events next week for St. Patrick’s Day. I’m trying to separate out events with nothing to offer but “green beer” or “Car Bombs.”

I’m also seeing more brewery and beer bar events hosted by local political organizations. Right now, my inclination is to post them on the list, but my standards for inclusion are entirely arbitrary and could change.

We need to note another closing in the Chicago beer scene: Scallywag Brewing, on Case Ave. in West suburban Westmont, announced they had closed on February 24. This was a nice storefront brewery with local art space, and locally roasted coffee in the morning. They opened in 2018.

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As a caregiver for my mother, I frequently interact with our health care system. Having received a liver transplant ten years ago via Medicaid and Medicare, my mother has also experienced other health consequences including kidney disease, type 2 diabetes, and chronic heart disease. Last Friday, my mother went in for an angiogram on her liver (to determine flow) while I struggled with a skin infection on my arm. Although my mother and I belong to different health provider networks, navigating the health care system for caregivers and the people they care for provides the basis of a love/hate relationship.

Photo by Gordon Dymowski

My mother had scheduled the procedure for 12:45 pm on a Friday, with our arrival time at 11:15 am. (Thankfully, I had called my doctor for an appointment about my skin infection the previous week, but was sent to Immediate Care due to a lack of appointments) A notification text the day before had indicated the time moved up to 2:45 pm, but my mother had clarified the time since we were depending on medical transportation. So we were both surprised when that Friday, at 5:30 am, we received a call from the transportation provider asking if we could be ready for a 7:00 am pickup. From that point,

• We arrive at the hospital with nothing in their records about Mom’s appointment. After being bounced through various departments, we learn where we’re supposed to head, and we’re allowed in.
• After arriving at the appropriate department. , we wait for Mom to be prepped. To kill the boredom, I sign up for text notifications about Mom’s procedure. While waiting, I call my primary care physician for follow-up; luckily, I’m able to schedule an appointment in between job search efforts and watching YouTube.
• Once Mom is formally prepared, I grab lunch and sit in the family lounge. My time is spent writing, doing some job searching, and catching up on social media.
• After making my way into the family lounge, I wait for another two hours when I am notified by an attendant that Mom is heading into her procedure. During this time…
• I receive a call from Mom’s transportation provider; after I apologize for the delay, the driver informs me that his manager does not want his drivers out after 5 pm, necessitating a last-ditch effort (Spoiler: hospital staff ensured that we had transportation home), and
• I discover that it was #NationalCaregiversDay on Twitter, and a tweet declared that “Caregivers are the health care system” and that caregivers “rock” at negotiating health care services.

Photo by Gordon Dymowski

And that’s part of the problem: too many people advocating for caregivers do not understand the totality of negotiating the health care system. (Watch the above video from Last Week Tonight With John Oliver for details). Rather than focus on advocating for systemic changes, these advocates tend to focus on more superficial issues. Many caregivers dealing with the complexities of the health care system on top of their caregiving duties have a greater risk for compassion fatigue and caregiver burnout. There’s a lack of acknowledgment about the burden and toll of caregiving on the individual, substituting self-help platitudes for more adaptive caring strategies and fostering connection and community.

But the greatest challenge in negotiating health care is engaging in self-care as a caregiver. Many caregivers are more likely to sacrifice their own health when caring for an elderly relative, and some caregivers experience health issues as a result. (Mental health issues for caregivers, especially male caregivers, are also critical). Caregivers are rarely reminded that self-care is not an indulgence, but a discipline. Negotiating a complicated system only adds to a caregiver’s stress; working to “game the system” makes it harder for caregivers and their relatives.

Photo by Gordon Dymowski

Final note: I was fortunate to learn that my skin infection was easily treatable with antibiotics.  However, getting to that point involved negotiating a tricky, often contradictory system that lacks empathy for patients and their loved ones. With the recent focus on public health issues around the coronavirus, it would be tempting to take a less even-handed tone about health care. However, caregivers – like many other people – have a complicated relationship with health care because of bureaucracy, costs, and lack of access to services.

And it shouldn’t be – health care is not an indulgence, it’s a right.

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I just called the President of the United States a bitch!

The good news is I wasn’t arrested by the Secret Service and am still a free man. The bad news is I was yelling loud at my tv. It was almost as loud as the Democrats running for President at the last debate.

I admit that this isn’t the first time this has happened, although it may be the first time I used the b-word. But it doesn’t occur as often as you think. The reason for this is when I find out he’s giving a speech or doing a gaggle before he gets on a helicopter, I switch the channel. If I didn’t, I’d be MFing my television set on a daily basis….probably multiple times. I decided it’s better for my blood pressure and my general health to ignore him as much as possible.

But then they are times like Wednesday night.

Don has returned from India and he’s going to address the Coronavirus scare. I have plans to get on an airplane next week. An enclosed capsule full of two hundred people passing germs back and forth to each other doesn’t make me feel too safe. I know Don has the best experts in the country working on this potential problem. I know he’s been briefed on the best options to keep this from becoming a pandemic in the United States. So who better to go to to find out if I can make it to Las Vegas without getting a disease that could kill me? I’m willing to spend fifteen minutes of my valuable time to find out.

The first thing I heard was that Mike Pence is going to be the point man on this. He’s the Coronavirus czar. A guy who doubts most scientific findings is going to be in charge. I’m pretty sure that was the first time I called Trump a bitch. Hey, I didn’t say it was only one time.

I eventually turned off the television and moved on with my life…sorta. Being the smartass that I am, I went to Facebook and Twitter to ask if I’m the only one who screams at televised Trump. In my heart, I know others do it, too…I just want them to admit it so I can feel better about myself. Here are some of the answers:

“All night every night.”
“I watched maybe two minutes, but felt blood pressure rise and started yelling at the screen so with my 7-year old around, thought it was best to just turn it off.”
“I yell at my phone when I read anything about him.”
“I call him names I didn’t even think I knew! My mother, who never swore, would be really upset with me.”

Aha!! I knew it! I knew I wasn’t the only one. I suppose this solidarity should make me feel better, but it’s not going to help much when I get on that plane and people start coughing. Maybe I should pay extra for an aisle seat so only one person will be crammed in next to me.

I guess it can be worse. I’m scheduled to go on a cruise in June. I’m fairly sure Don and Mike will have this thing contained by then…fairly sure. If not, I’m looking forward to being quarantined with thousands of people in Alaska.

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Risk an unpopular viewpoint and the blog-o-sphere erupts with molten malice; dreaded Twitter monsters lurk behind their venomous hash tags. The twisted values of the social media world deliver a clear message: “Why would you willingly expose yourself to being emotionally attacked and wounded? Dude, do not ever admit to being vulnerable!”

It is sad advice. It cripples rather than protects. It isolates you. It shrinks your ability to feel, and to love and be loved.

Being vulnerable is not a weakness, it is a strength. It is courage, manifest and unrestrained. It is the ability to feel; to experience happiness and pain, love and despair; and the capacity to convey those feelings and emotions.

I have been in many a sharing circle, both as witness and focus of the tableau, when men and women have allowed their suffering to surface. Their tears, our tears, washed us clean, revealed our humanness, validated our existence, empowered us to love deeper and grow stronger. It is in those moments when we are most human, putting our differences aside and standing together as one, arm in arm with those you never thought you could.

If you are carrying a heavy weight, staggering under the burden, it’s a relief when someone comes along to help you. The more who offer their help, the lighter the load. Are you “weaker” as a result? Isn’t it easier to carry the weight now that you don’t have to do so all by yourself?

Maybe the answer is not so simple; it probably depends on how the help is offered. If the assistance comes with a haughty “you’re too weak to carry this alone,” it will probably elicit more resentment than appreciation. But if the person pitches in and says, “wow, I know how heavy that is, I wasn’t strong enough to carry it by myself either,” you’d probably be grateful for the extra pair of hands.

It’s the difference between “teaching/lecturing” and “sharing/experiencing.”

When I lead workshops for men and women, I’m careful not to “teach” per se. To make a point I try to tell a personal story that illustrates it. I share what I experienced in a way that others can identify with, and personally ‘live’ the outcome. I am willing to show my vulnerability!

When people try to help you by telling you what to do it’s harder to make a connection. And without a connection, trust can’t be established.

If the ‘teachers’ are willing to share real parts of themselves with you – willing to be vulnerable – sharing more than their intelligence but their honesty and openness, the essence of who they are – this makes them relatable; human; trustworthy.

If the teachers are willing to expose pieces of their lives, you will feel safe to do the same. It is their vulnerability that creates connection. It puts us in the same place and is a reminder that all of us have failings, and none of us are inherently flawed. It takes courage on both sides: feeling safe to share deep feelings; trusting the sincerity of the narrative; promising confidentiality.

To be vulnerable is to be courageous; it opens us up to life rather than being fearful of it. Embracing vulnerability allows us to feel more connected with other people, makes us more emotionally available and able to be more authentic and honest with ourselves and others. Our vulnerability empowers us to love deeper and grow stronger.

OK. This blog post sounds an awful lot like the one I did a little over 2 1/2 weeks ago where I talked about how long people are staying in their homes. But the data I shared in that post was less than ideal. It was biased by only looking at people who moved and it didn’t really answer the question people really want the answer to. That is…what percentage of people move each year?

So when I stumbled on this census bureau data recently I decided to do a quick update and share it. I thought it was pretty interesting and it looks at the entire population, whether people are moving or not.

As you can see in the graph below they show the mobility trends over a 30+ year period and they break it down between renters and homeowners. As expected renters move a lot more frequently – i.e. a greater percentage move each year – than homeowners. There are some simple explanations as to why this would be true:

• People rent because they know they might need to move for various reasons
• When you rent it’s easier to move (no place to sell) so why not?
• Renters tend to be younger, with less accumulated crap, so it’s easier to move for that reason also
• Younger renters have fewer ties (e.g. no children, which are a different form of accumulated crap) to a particular area so it’s easier to move

But the other big takeaway from the graph is how dramatically the mobility rate (percent of people who move each year) has declined over this time period – for both renters and homeowners. Although the mobility rate of homeowners is half of what it used to be it has stabilized in the last 10 or 11 years.

US mobility has dramatically dropped over the last 30+ years for both renters and homeowners.

Think about it. A 5% mobility rate for homeowners translates to an average homeowner tenure of 20 years! And, when you consider that a lot of people move way more frequently than that, it means that some people are staying put for a lot longer than 20 years. Well, I can’t say I blame them when real estate commissions are so high and moving ain’t cheap. As I mentioned last time, people moving less frequently is not great for the real estate industry or the labor market but it’s probably better for people’s finances – at least in the short run.

#RealEstate #HomeOwnership #Moving

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The next president elect of the American Psychoanalytic Association….. will not be me. I was defeated by Dr. Kerry Sulkowicz of New York City, a fine man who will do a fine job. To comfort myself in the aftermath of my loss I’ve been reading a book by another election non-winner, Mr. Andrew Yang. It’s called “The War Against Normal People,” and I recommend it to everybody.

Yang is a thinker. His book is full of ideas backed up with data that tell the story of what is happening in America today and what is likely to happen tomorrow if we don’t change course. The basic idea is that technology plus capitalism is creating an untenable situation that will become catastrophic if we don’t get our values straight. I look forward to Mr. Yang’s future contributions.

As for myself, I’ve decided that to keep peace with myself I’ve got to do all I can to make sure America has a future. That means what I can to remove the current occupant from the White House.

I hate to say it, I hate to think it and I hate to believe it, but…We truly are at risk of losing our democracy. I wish this was an exaggeration, or a distorted view emanating from a pessimistic, negativistic and depressive state.  I wish it was a joke. But Donald Trump is demonstrating that not only  can it happen here- it is happening here, right in front of our eyes. When I’m able to give this reality its due, it scares the hell out of  me.

As a wrote in my last blog entry, my own presidential run was a feat of emotional alchemy, an attempt to turn my pervasive feelings of rage, helplessness and guilt into positive social action.). So plan B, which is less grandiose and more realistic, is to do some grass roots work.

By work, I mean the work getting eligible voters to cast ballots.  One notable statistic from the election I just lost is that only 18% of those eligible to vote cast a ballot.   If we can’t do better than that in our national election, we are sunk.  But on the brighter side, it is seems like there may be a lot of votes that can be harvested that could turn things around if we put our efforts in that direction.

I hereby pledge to work in swing states like Michigan and Wisconsin, for whoever is the Democratic nominee. I also declare my intent to work so that Congresswoman Lauren Underwood is returned to the House of Representatives. I am making this public declaration to combat my natural tendency to pull the covers over my head or binge watch TV shows about Nazi takeovers.

If we can turn things around in this election, I hope whoever is elected will have a place for Mr.Yang, because IMHO he really gets it. As for now, may the force be with us.

Chicago Comic & Entertainment Expo (C2E2) returns the earliest ever to Chicago in frigid February for 2020! Team Gregula is honored to be approved as the macabre media once again in order for us to cover our 11th consecutive C2E2 in a row. This premiere pop culture convention has grown to be the largest fandom event to take place annually since 2010 in Chicago. Featuring a Show Floor packed vith top exhibitors, autograph sessions, panels, screening rooms, exclusives and a massive Artist Alley. C2E2 is also home to the C2E2 Crown Championships of Cosplay. Excelsior!

Listed below are just some of the guests making appearances at C2E2 2020.

Entertainment Guests

• Mark Ruffalo from Avengers Infinity Saga *Saturday & Sunday*
• William Shatner from Star Trek *Sunday*
• George Takei from Star Trek *All Days*
• Walter Koenig from Star Trek *All Days*
• Stephen Amell from Arrow *Friday & Saturday*
• David Yost from Mighty Morphin’ Power Rangers *All Days*
• Jason David Frank from Mighty Morphin’ Power Rangers *All Days*
• Walter Jones from Mighty Morphin’ Power Rangers *All Days*
• CM Punk (WWE) *Friday & Saturday*
• Kevin Nash (WWE) *All Days*
• Road Warrior Animal (WWE) *All Days*
• Svengoolie from Me-TV Network’s Svengoolie *Friday & Saturday*
• Genndy Tartakovsky (Dexter’s Laboratory) *Saturday*
• Ivy Doomkitty (SyFy’s Heroes of Cosplay) *All Days*

Literary Guests

• Alexandra Monir (The Life Below) *Saturday & Sunday*
• Joe Hill (Locke & Key) *All Days*
• Laura Sebastian (Ash Princess) *Friday*
• Rainbow Rowell (Pumpkinheads) *Saturday & Sunday*
• Christina Henry (The Chronicles of Alice) *Saturday & Sunday*

Comic Guests

• Ash Maczko
• Ashley A. Woods
• Austin Janowsky
• Bill Reinhold
• Bob Camp
• Casey Parsons
• Cat Staggs
• David Petersen
• Doc Shaner

C2E2 2020 is running February 28-March 1 in the South Building at McCormick Place Convention Center. Various badge options available.

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